We asked the mothers of little ones what they really want for Mother’s Day (besides sleep — OBVIOUSLY). They came back with some great ideas that go beyond just flowers and brunch, although we tend to like those things decently well anyway. From the sentimental to the practical, here’s what they suggested:

1. Spa time, especially booked with girlfriends. Some might think there’s irony in moms wanting social time away from their babies for Mother’s Day, but it honestly makes us better mothers. Many women said that spa days are “so relaxing” and “better than sleep”.
2. Jewelry that symbolizes our kids. The moms said they’d love to have a necklace with their kids’ initials or a ring with their kids’ birthstones in it. Some even love the idea of a breastmilk necklace as a way to remember their special bond with their baby.
3. Some joked about wanting botox and a boob job. But on a serious note, there’s no denying that our bodies change after having kids—I’ve noticed more than a few wrinkles and grey hairs since my son was born. Mom might just love a course on healthy skin and makeup products, perhaps including tips for application for the more “mature” crowd (ahem, those of us who are just too tired to go out clubbing on the weekends). We know that we are supposed to be happy with our bodies, proud of growing older and signs of having had babies, but that doesn’t mean we can’t want to look a little less haggard when we are running around after our kids.
4. If you want to go practical, a bottle of wine an external hard drive is a great gift idea for mom. I think most of us have smartphones full of pictures, so extra storage space to keep them safe would be very appreciated. Plus, it would leave space for more photos. At the end of the day, there’s nothing better than pictures of our kids.
5. Speaking of pictures, you could take a good picture of mom with the kids and frame it. She’d love that. Note: we do not mean a snapshot of mom with the kids looking exhausted. Make sure mom has had time to shower, do her hair, and put on makeup before snapping away.
6. One mom says her husband puts the kids’ handprints on her Mother’s Day card every year. We think that’s the sweetest and a great sentimental gift for mom (and so easy! Take note, dads).

What are you secretly hoping your loved ones will do for you on Mother’s Day? What is the best Mother’s Day gift you’ve ever received? Let us know in the comments!