I know many people drift apart, but my dearest friends are truly remarkable. We managed to remain friends with kids. I was the first to have children. My eldest son is three and my youngest is four months. When I was pregnant with my first, I had no idea how I would prepare myself, let alone my friends with this change in dynamic. Hindsight is always 20/20 and in retrospect, I would have prepared them.
1. I can’t get drunk with you anymore.
This usually comes out during pregnancy. Some acquaintances think that once baby is earth-side, you are ready to party. Wrong. I now get up at all hours of the night, not to mention the fact that I am a milk machine. You, my true friend sit with me while I fold laundry.
2. You will see my boobs all the time.
Nursing is tough to get the hang of and you are someone I am comfortable with. You have seen my boobs before, but this is different. This kid eats all the time and I like to air out my nipples in between feedings. These ta-tas are usually out on full display.
3. My kid(s) will annoy you.
They cry, they scream, they expel bodily fluids like nobody’s business. I am accustomed to high pitched yells and I wear track pants. I cannot promise that you will leave my house without a headache and unknown substances all over your brand new cashmere scarf.
4. I will annoy you.
My life revolves around these little beings. They are usually all I have to talk about, unless I am complaining about the way my body looks after two kids.
I will hush you after swearing because the one that can talk mimics the “f” word, quite clearly in the grocery store.
I am now that annoying friend with kids.
5. You will spend many nights “in” with me.
I don’t really go out anymore, so you will become quite familiar with the bedtime routine. We can have an occasional glass of wine while I try to tidy up my kitchen. We can chat about the things you do, such a drunken escapades and your real life social scene. Let’s face it, I live vicariously through you sometimes.
6. I love you.
Thank you for adapting to my crazy life. I love you for sitting in with me, even though you got invited to a once in a lifetime event. Thank you for walking out on a date when I needed your help.I love you for doing my dishes and tidying my house when you knew I was beyond exhaustion.
7. My kids will love you.
These kids of mine cherish every moment they get to spend with you. My three year old calls you his and lights up when he hears your name. Building forts and reading stories made his whole world when I was designated to a rocking chair trying to latch a newborn. You are my life long friend and their companion.
You know you have good friends if they stick around after you become a mom. Only your true friends will love your kids too.
Did your friendships change after you had kids? Tell us about it in the comments!
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